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Principles for Family Life – a Parents Information Evening

Heritage and the HCA welcomed parents to school on Tuesday evening for a thoughtful presentation by Mrs Scarlata and Mrs Fletcher considering the interrelationships parents and children have in all sorts of family contexts.

Starting with interaction from parents on their hopes for their children as they grew up were a range of concerns – understanding the importance of truthfulness, showing respect to others, becoming more independent and capable (doing away with helicopter parenting which keeps children mollycoddled and less resilient in the demands and duties of real life) and finally understanding obedience, especially in the younger years, to reflect a loving and guiding relationship where the parent can occupy his/her unique role. That tricky balance between over ‘authoritarian’ or too ‘laissez-faire’ is not easy and Mrs Fletcher pointed out that we are all under authority and all face consequences in our lives if we disregard established boundaries. However, it does require adults to be models, leading from the front ….

Mrs Scarlata made us aware of the negative impact of saying NO! in tones which sets up reactive states in the brain. If a child is hungry, tired or emotionally lonely they can quickly over react so we need to be sensitive to meeting their needs routinely, in order to gain co-operation from them. Saying YES! can open the opportunity for discussion together. She also presented us with a picture of the range of needs children have every day – The Mind Platter. Sleep is key – physical exercise – focused work to make deep brain connections – relationships with family and friends – play time of all sorts! – relaxation – and’ time in’, which gives space for internal reflections on the day/reading/experiences.

A helpful distinction was made between using ‘natural consequences’ to bad choices or behaviour which need to be made matter-of-factly and clearly, and the temptation to instead turn that into punishment. The point being that natural consequences flow from poor choices but can help the inexperienced child to see how they can change their choices to better results. When this morphes into punishment, given in heightened emotional tones by the parent, the child does not learn from his mistakes and digs his heels in, reinforcing a pattern of poor choices.

Please do get in touch with Mrs Scarlata if you would like to chat further about anything raised through this seminar. Below is a list of books she would recommend:

(1) Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years, Jim Fay and Charles Fay
(2) Parenting with Love and Logic, Dr. Foster Cline and Jim Fay
(3) Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, Dr. Foster Cline and Jim Fay
(4) More Ideas About Parenting with Less Stress, Jim Fay, Charles Fay, Dr. Foster Cline
(5) The Pearls of Love and Logic For Parents and Teachers, Jim Fay and Dr. Foster Cline
(6) Brainstorm, Dr. Daniel Siegel
(7) The Whole-Brain Child, Dr. Daniel Siegel
(8) The Yes Brain Child, Dr. Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson
(9) EQ and Your Child, Eileen Healy
(10) How to Raise a Child with a High EQ, Lawrence Shapiro
(11) Parenting with Presence, Dr. Susan Stiffelman
(12) How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
(13) Siblings without Rivalry, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
(14) If I have to tell you One More Time, Amy McCready
(15) Raising Great Kids, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Senior Recital Assembly

Many thanks to all our Seniors who played so beautifully in the Senior Recital Assembly. We enjoyed performances on the piano, the flute, the clarinet and the violin plus as ensemble of voice, piano, violin and cello playing ‘When’ by Dodi Clark. The standard of playing keeps going up and up and we hope others will feel encouraged to come and perform in this supportive environment.
Pieces played included :
Sommervise by Backer Grondahl
Adriana by Astor
Romanza by Mozart
The Song of the Lark by Tchaikovsky
Concerto no. 5 in D Major for violin by Seitz
Vivace by Telemann

Y8 enjoy ‘The Tempest’ at Hertford Theatre

Y8 enjoyed a ‘pared-down, intense and urban production’ of Shakespeare’s last play, featuring stunning contemporary African dance choreography. It was a powerful, passionate, and magical performance and this is what Holly thought:

‘When I went inside the theatre, I knew it was going to be a good play. The small theatre in the centre of Hertford has been known to put on impressive productions and today was no different. The foyer smelt of coffee and I thought it was a welcoming feeling. When we went to get our seats, there was an exciting atmosphere in the air. The play started with someone playing a fast, dramatic beat on the drums and then two Ariels came out and, doing quick dancing, symbolised the tempest Prospero was making by acting like fire. I was especially impressed by the music and the sounds because I thought they worked really well with the story line.
There were a few changes, for instance: Trinculo was played by a woman instead of a man (which was actually quite funny) and you never see the King of Naples, Antonio and Sebastian. I think that the story was still told moderately accurately, but I would have liked the story line to have been a bit more clear. My favourite part was when Trinculo went under a blanket with Caliban because she wanted to take cover. It looked very funny! Another part I enjoyed was how Caliban spoke in Malawi and English so you had to look at subtitles to know what he was saying!’

The English Department organises regular trips to see productions that relate to the curriculum. We are lucky enough to have great theatres like the Cambridge Arts Theatre and ADC theatres in Cambridge. The college theatre productions are also a great resource, (Pembroke College being a very vibrant local choice,) as are regional theatres such as Hertford and Harlow.

Music is flourishing at Heritage

There are masses of new musical initiatives unfolding at Heritage. A set of classroom keyboards have arrived and Year 5-11 are enjoying using them to develop their composition and performance skills.
A set of 20 djembes (African drums) have also been purchased for whole-class drumming. They will mostly be used after Christmas by Year 7 and 8, although Juniors have also enjoyed using them on Enrichment afternoons. Pupils will develop their sense of polyrhythm as they play complex rhythmic patterns together.
20 ukuleles have also arrived for whole-class ukulele performances and Year 7-8 are already learning simple chord sequences and songs. Year 5-6 will start learning the ukuleles after Christmas.
Whole class singing is taking place in every year group, and Year 5-8 are each practising songs that will be recorded onto a ‘class album’ which will then be made into a CD at the end of the year. They are making a wonderful sound!
Whole class singing is new in Years 9, 10 and 11 and the response from pupils has been excellent. Each class has been working with enthusiasm to develop their choral skills, whilst retaining an atmosphere of fun and enjoyment. They performed at the 10th Anniversary Thanksgiving Service on the 18th November, and will be doing so again, later this term at the Christmas Concert.

Y7 Performs ‘Peer Gynt’

Y7 delivered a great rendition of Ibsen’s ‘Peer Gynt’ to parents yesterday. Peer and his mother Åse are left to live in poverty. Peer wants to restore what his father had wrecked, but gets lost in boasting and day-dreams. This tale of self discovery and forgiveness is not an easy script to interpret but pupils did a commendable job and this is what they thought of the play!

‘I am playing Ase, Peer Gynt’s mother, in the play. I think, even though not many people have heard of her, Ase has a very meaty part! She gets to shout at her son, Peer, and then immediately she has to sob and cry about how terrible her life is, how Peer is so weak, how he lies too much; how, later on in the play, she has nothing left and how Peer is an outlaw. I think this play combines comedy and tragedy very well.’ (Isabel C)

‘I think the play has a great story and it’s quite fun because there are lots of characters. It also has great humour. Peer Gynt keeps doing crazy things.’ (Hallam B)

‘The whole story in general is probably what I would have as a dream. Maybe Henrik Ibsen based his play on a dream he had, because it is strange and abnormal, like a fairytale, full of ridiculous characters, like the Button-Moulder who intends to melt Peer Gynt’s soul, and other bizarre characters such as the Boyg, trolls, broken-straws, sighs and tears!’ (Alix H)

‘I think the main moral of the story is to always be true to yourself and always be yourself. I like our rehearsals because drama is fun and it is fun doing a play.’ (Maiya D)

Many thanks to Mr Stokes for all his hard work.